You Might Be A Texting Groupie If...

Have you ever met a guy, hit it off, given him your number and suddenly found that you are stuck in some sort of texting purgatory with him? You aren't dating and you're not exactly friends. He doesn't call you on the phone or make plans. You just met once and all of a sudden you've become virtual pen pals. This type of interaction can often be confusing due to the circumstances and uncertainty of this undefined relationship of sorts. You may start to wonder why in the heck this guy is still contacting you. Well, maybe (just maybe) you have in fact become someone's texting groupie.
For some guys, having an index of women whom can engage in and provide them with some much needed attention without them having to declare or reciprocate any feelings is necessary. They have to exert very little effort, yet in return, receive just the right amount of reinforcement to keep them feeling acknowledged and content. So what are the telltale signs of this type of interaction you ask? I give you:

You Might Be A Texting Groupie If...

• He lives within reasonable distance of you (same or neighboring city).
• The texts are often flirtatious in nature and appear to warrant some sort of face to face interaction yet it never occurs. 
• You ask yourself "I don't understand...he keeps texting me so why doesn't he just ask me to hang out??"
• The texts may occur randomly out of no where from time to time, late at night, with little to no meaningful or interesting dialogue being exchanged. 
• His texting lacks any overall gist or purpose other than to get a reaction: 

Him: "Hey." 

You: "Hi. What's up?" 

Him:"Nothin. 

*Long Pause* 

Him: "U?" 

You: "Making dinner" 

Him: "Cool." 

Him: ":)"

• You communicate consistently and fairly often, but never with any intent to make solid plans or go out.
• He appears to be fishing for reassurance by asking questions like "Miss me?"
• You've still never had a single real phone conversation with the guy.
• His texts may become oddly and overtly sexual in nature.
• He texts you in the middle of the night to see what you're up to which would widely be known as a booty call...that is, if he was actually asking to hang out.
• He gives the impression of wanting to make plans, yet never follows through.
• You end up feeling perplexed, frustrated, and maybe even a little used in the situation. 
• He finds a reason to decline any of your attempts to try to schedule plans, especially those that may occur at a reasonable hour. 

If you are experiencing at least 3 of the symptoms listed above, then you may have inadvertently become a texting groupie. But don't worry, the easiest way to stop this behavior from occurring is to stop reinforcing it by not responding. Don't answer the texts. Cut him off. Giving any response, even a negative one, can lead to the correspondence continuing and maybe even becoming more intense. After all, some guys like angry girls. It just might get him off...and that's not exactly the reaction that you are looking for I'm sure. 

Until next time, lovelies!

xo

~M